First let me say this was written whilst heading out the door, and also when I was on the road, and wasn't fine tuned prior to posting, so some wording may not be very articulate. But as I was driving during the wee hours of the night/morning I dictated the following using my phone.
I was just looking through some old letters from a friend, and saw they used the phrase 'honesty is the best policy', it was used in regards to said person and myself being honest with one another.
My point is this, I took a lil time to see how honest I truly am, and I was at a loss to be able to recall the last time I actually lied, was dishnest or renigged on anything (whether something I said, professed, promised or otherwise) and I just cannot find such being done by me.
Now don't take me wrongly, I am not perfect or a saint or anyone special, I just am honest.
Like how I talk, I say what I mean and mean what I say.
Like the phrase 'I love you', I have NEVER in my entire life once said that and not been able to in time still say it and mean it. Which might be a true anomaly in today's world. For when people fall out of love or get divorced or whatever the scenario is, they usually just part ways and or separate contact with the person they previously professed their love to/for.
Now to me, 'I love you' is my word, my commitment of my very being when I say it.
So although the parameters of the 'love' may evolve or be 'reclassified', no one I ever selected to have my love offered to ever stopped being loved in whatever capacity to me.
Ah maybe that makes me a fool, or naive, but as I am not flippant with things I say especially when it comes to dealings pertaining to and of the heart, I never lie when I speak from my heart.
Maybe being so naive means I don't walk in step with what appears to be a large portion of society nowadays, but hey - how can you live with yourself, and sleep at night if your words have an expiration date/time to them?
My humble advice is this, if you tell someone you love them, and they don't end up being able to spend their life with you (and vice versa) do NOT let them be removed from your life - cherish the friendship that should have been the basis for that love, and keep that friendship going.
For if in a relationship you for whatever reason(s) can no longer say 'I love you', though it may be sad and probably rather confusing, if you 'close out' a friendship because the love is gone or can't be shown, then what love was there if a friendship cannot remain???
Sometimes time is the key that unlocks the stupidity that ensues when a relationship ends, and one can see past such pretentious excuses as 'what would others think', or 'how would it look..", or a million other lame faux rationalizations. You can never have too many good and true friends who care for and about you and your life. For if you pick and choose friends for any other reasons than for the friendship that can be shared, you don't have friends, you merely are either trying to 'fit in' and put on airs by the company you keep, or perhaps it is fear, or well the realization that you need to mend fences that you are hesitant to do so. But it is never to late to call, text, email, drop by for a visit, or however reconnect with friends, the only thing that may be an obstacle is your refusal to reach out and do so....
Disclaimer : This piece is NOT applicable if a relationship was ended due to abuse, dishonesty or anything that would not allow for a healthy friendship to be viable.
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